So I have this professor. She's actually a very good professor (I know - shocker!), but she's got a very bad habit. She cancels stuff at the last minute.
Let me extrapolate. We received an email at 1:00 am from her telling us that our 9:00 am class the following morning was canceled. I, of course, didn't check my email when I got up in the morning and rushed around to get Sumo Baby to the nanny. Somehow, I didn't have time between bathing myself (and by the way, hell, if I can manage to bathe myself then I think these other greasy looking students ought to be able to bathe themselves) and dressing the baby to see if my professor had emailed me to tell me that we didn't have to show up. Apparently I should have "known" that she wanted to sit around and watch Japanese anime p0rn all day instead of teaching the class.
Last week, we were supposed to have a class trip (how middle school, right?) on a day when we normally don't have class. The night before? Canceled. Her excuse? She was TOO TIRED. Look, stinky jellyfish vahjayjay (you KNEW I had to use that tag again, right?), I have a baby whose sleeping habits are sporadic at best. Even WITH feeding Sumo Baby the magnificent turkey. Meaning that MY sleeping habits are sporadic at best. You're too tired? Cry me a river!
Not that I wanted to go on the middle school-like field day extravaganza. But come ON - give me some notice. I had already got the nanny to agree to come early on that day so that I could go on this stupid trip. Then I had to pay her for nothing. Money doesn't come out of Sumo Baby's arse, unfortunately! I wish it would. I hate paying for stuff like that and then throwing it away.
Look, I don't want special treatment as a single parent. I know there are some people out there with a wild hair up their arse who are convinced that somehow as parents they deserve to be cut some extra slack at work or school. I don't ask for extra slack. I just want enough slack that should be afforded on a basic human decency level. It's just rude even if most of the people in the class have nothing else to do except watch Japanese anime p0rn. Even if they don't have to arrange for child care and then PAY FOR IT even though they didn't NEED IT.
Maybe this is one of the many reasons why lawyers are so bitter.
Ok, I know this post is titled that law school is not designed for single parents. But hell, let's be honest - NOTHING is really designed for single parents. Except maybe Chipotle. And alcohol.
Update: She just sent us another email in which she told us she has to cancel Thursday's class. But she proposes to have a dinner class instead. Yeah, ok - can I bring my infant? Oh, you wouldn't appreciate listening to him scream and cry through three hours of stupidity? Oh, well, I guess I'm out, then!
Monday, April 14, 2008
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I had a prof like that first year. Drove me nuts. Got to a point that one of my classmates would call me and tell me because she knew that I had to make such arrangements. The classmate? The other mommy in the class, whose husband works at the school, so she was there anyway.
Ugh. That would drive me crazy. At least the semester is almost over right?
Mmmm .. Chipotle ...
Obviously, your prof doesn't have any respect for your time, otherwise, she'd make the effort to notify you earlier or try harder to actually show up. Sheesh.
I think she is just plain ignorant and inconsiderate. Hope you day gets better.
Wow. Crazy. Professors are just crazy. period.
Umm so if you check your blog status thingy, it might say that I was on your site for maybe an hour? I left the screen open, while chasing poopy butts around... lol So... I wasn't stalking you for an hour-- just so you know.
That sucks! Does she think you have nothing better to do then sit around all day and read your emails waiting for her to cancel class on a whim? That's just plain rude.
At least you're not related to the insensitive idiot.
Ugh. That sht used to piss me off in college. I wpuld get all the way to class ( I lived off camous) and wala no class.
This morning I have been blog hopping and have seen your baby's adorable scrunchy face on no less than four of the ones I read...so I decided to drop by...
That prof would drive me nuts, but then I would probably still take the kid to the nanny and have a nap instead. At least once anyway...
And I'm with Gordo. Yummmmmm...Chipotle.
I had a prof like that in college. He actually decided to change our meeting date to Sundays halfway through the class! GRRRRR.
You should totally go and bring the infant. Consequences for her actions.I don't think I could handle that, single mom or not. I get all freaky about timeliness and scheduling.
I have clients like that!
I find it so rude, passive-agressive even. They're exerting control over time that doesn't belong to them.
I am in agreement with Diane, controlling time that isn't hers is rude. I'd take Sumo Baby (maybe even skip feeding him, so he's Super Angry Sumo Baby, then constantly chuckle and say "yeah, this is why I signed up for classes DURING THE DAY. That's when my nanny works." And just stay there and keep at it. She doesn't even KNOW tired 'til she's been subjected to a grumpy baby in the evening.
I love when profs cancel class, but not when i actually go and drive my way down to school just so I can turn around and head back home. NOT FUN!
And this is under the "I'm a bad person" tag... why??
A rabidly hated habit in my otherwise lovely husband is his propensity for canceling his appointments without much notice. He HATES living on a schedule (I keep thinking this trait will magically evaporate when we have a baby) and doesn't see why he shouldn't be able to cancel stuff anywhere from three hours to fifteen minutes before it's scheduled. RAH-HOO-HOOOOD.
He and your teacher should sit down and talk about how annoying everyone is who wants PREDICTABILITY in their day.
(Chewing with his mouth open is another one.)
That is the one thing I dread most about starting school this fall. I have heard these kinds of horror stories a LOT about our local community college too bad its the only one with in reasonable driving distance, that has all my pre-req's
Okay so I have a kid at Mt Holyoke, not a single mom, but just a little, a teeny tiny hardly worth mentioning really, little bit controlling. And she wrote her prof a letter after figuring out how much each class costs and asked him to please reschedule the classes he's canceled since they each cost her $542 a piece.
He apologized and has QUIT canceling. It's worth a try....
And thanks. You made me think to change that title....
Dude~
Send a note to the Dean. And use your lawyerly skillz and document dates, times, reasons, etc. You've created a compelling record right here in your blog for firing her ass, or at least getting a reprimand that might make her appreciate her job enough to show her students a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
Signed, A Former Lawyer ;-)
Aaargh! My husband stays home with the kids and attends grad school as well. He deals with this a few times a semester. So frustrating! Oh, and he has a gwadzillion doctors appointments that he always needs sitters for, and then the doctors will cancel on him the day of as well. Aaargh! (did I say that already?)
I have to ask what law class does she teach? She sounds like a total flake! I would be up in arms paying the nanny for no reason.
Even if I had nothing better to do than look at Japanese anime p0rn, I would still be pissed as hell that I showed up to a 9am class that was canceled because she didn't have the decency to give adequate notice.
I have an adjunct professor this semester who cancels our class all the time too. One day he told his law clerk (who's also in his class) to spread the word class was canceled, and so she text messaged her friends in our class. About 25 of us didn't know the class was canceled because she didn't have our cell phone numbers, and sat there for 30 minutes wondering where our professor (and half our class) was. My mom leaves work early to watch my kid on those days and has to work longer on other days to make up for it. It's just plain inconsiderate.
Selfish. That's what it is really. Let's be honest this professor is only thinking of herself. She must not have children:)! Please tell me you don't have to have this same prof again.
So besides causing you to waste your money on child care, it sounds like a waste of payment on your class.
And I'm with Flea...take Sumo Baby, plop him on one of her nice dining chairs, use one of her nice guest towels as a bib and a nice bath towel to tie him to the chair, feed him some turkey and sweet potatoes (those stain awful nice!) and pop a boob in his mouth right in front of her. Then say, "you really don't mind, right? since I have a little trouble getting childcare at the last minute and have spent a ridiculous amount for childcare I ended up NOT needing...". Maybe she'll get the point. Although as flaky as she seems, maybe not.
p.s. I have some bloggy bling at my site for you...hope it helps with sleeping...it seemed to coincide with mine sleeping!!! wheeee!
okay, uh, time to finish laundry and make bottles. and honestly, woman, when are you just going to join TWITTER already?
That would piss me off to no end. I get that from a supervisor at work all the time, can't you change your hours, um no, i'm not paying double in daycare when there are people with much less seniority than me. Her response is well daycare isn't my problem. I know it isn't, but justifying for the overtime when i call in sick is.
When I was a 3L we had a fantastic field trip. It was a water law seminar - complete with a tour of every irrigation ditch and diversion dam in west central Nebraska. Of course the tour was just a chance to sleep off the party that was thrown in the cabins where we stayed that night. We did have some fantastic food too, now that I think about it. We never did anything illegal, but "highly immoral" was a favorite among the group.
Hi, nice to meet you! Your professor sounds lazy and ANNOYING. I used to love it when professors would randomly cancel class, but I think if I had a baby I would have raised some hell! Whats up with this "dinner class"? She thinks she can just schedule a new class at her convenience? I am getting frustrated for you!
Wow I'm late getting back here. This week was hell but I had not one late appointment with my client so why the hell did your stinky jelly fish treat you so. Damn her. Oh as usual I have not been to your TIT state. I don't know California but damn it I am scared of MJ, oh well I love movies too.
what an inconsiderate whore!
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